I decided to write this blog after watching a show on Netflix. A young lady desired to seek out her biological father and opted not to because she thought it might offend her mother. Here is my Clinical perspective. The two are not related. If there is a desire to seek out their absent parent that has NOTHING to do with the other parent. If your parents or anyone finds an issue with your decision, that sounds like a “THEM” issue that should be addressed on their own, independent of you. You have the right to seek whatever you desire from the other parent. You may desire answers, a relationship with that parent, to meet your family, connect with siblings, etc., You DON’T owe your parents or anyone anything present in your life anything, you owe it to YOURSELF to seek the answers you are looking for.
Some things to consider on this journey. This journey is about YOU!!!!
Weigh out the pros and cons of this journey so you can make a decision
Set boundaries with anyone who is not in support of your journey
If your other parent is being negative, refrain from discussing this matter with them together
Talk to a therapist to help you on this journey
Refrain from explaining or sharing details that you don't want to share (you have the right to protect your journey)
Practice self-care regularly (rest, diet, exercise, time alone, time with good supportive people, etc.,)